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Marital Resolution
January 1, 2008 |
We all tend to think of our marriage as our most favorite belonging but yet we don’t
always put the full regard to what our precious belonging deserves. That’s why psychologist
Dr. Michael Spellman says the start of the New Year is a good time to get a fresh
perspective on your marriage. “As the New Year approaches it certainly does make sense to take a look around, talk to your spouse, see what types of things have
got some slippage in them over the course of the year. See what types of things
that you used to do that you enjoy, the things that built the fabric of the marriage
and might need a bit more attention this coming year.” If you do sense some problems
in your marriage psychologists say the first step is to calmly talk with your partner
about your concerns. Dr. Spellman says, “Communicating when we are upset is probably
one of the most challenging part of a relationship. It’s important to calm down,
that’s why time outs are advised and that’s why you should count to ten. Get yourself
in a place where you’re calm enough to talk and talk respectively.” It’s also important
to seek support from those around you. “We also have social supports from family,
friends, and clergy,” says Dr. Spellman. “Those types of supports are essential
to keeping a relationship going over time.” If you’ve leaned on support system and
seriously talked with your partner but are not seeing any changes it may be time
to seek professional counseling.
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