What better time to bring you this next story but on Valentines Day? Unfortunately many people nag their loved ones to improve their habits, but the tactic doesn't always work.

Being both a patient advocate and a husband, Mark Geisler explains he knows the most important thing to keep in mind when trying to help a loved one make healthy lifestyle changes. "First and foremost we need to stay real clear on our desire to stay helpful and if our partner thinks that in anyway that we're coming across as nagging, then it's time to back up and regroup because that won't be helpful."

Mark's own wife of more than 15 years admits she made that very mistake. She loved him so much that she nagged and nagged him to lose weight. Lois says "I realized the more I nagged, the more he dragged his heels in and didn't do anything about it."

Mark says that your partner has to want to make the healthy changes for themselves first and then you can rally behind him with encouragement and love. "The most important thing to do is to find out from our loved one what their goal is, what do they want and then think, how can I help them do that."

Lois also says that "I knew that he wanted to live longer and I knew that he wanted to exercise. And I'm cheering him on all the way, he's doing great."

Letting your partner know you're on their side in the struggle to kick a bad health habit - is a great way to bring you closer together. Your comfort, help and emotional support can play a big part in making a tough task easier. Lois is excited "I saw a change in him. I saw that just loving him for who he was and encouraging where he was. I'm so proud of him in whatever he does. He's so awesome. He is just so awesome."

Why thank you. Oh, no well, maybe this Valentines Day it isn't your partner who needs to change but rather the way you approach them about issues you're concerned about.

And chocolate candies are a favorite treat to give on Valentines Day, but the American Heart Association encourages people to make the connection between healthy hearts and Valentine's Day by choosing a gift this year that's both good and healthy.