Female sexual dysfunction is a common problem in the United States, and unfortunately often goes untreated.

This complex problem can have many different causes. Gynecologist Jane Daniel says that if you're a woman who's experiencing problems with sex, you're not alone and more importantly there's someone you can see for help. "Your doctor or general physician because they can start getting a history on you to try and see which avenue is more likely to lead to an answer to the problem, what is the cause?"

Dr. Daniel explains that because a woman's sexuality has psychological, physical, and emotional components to it, sometimes the cause for sexual dysfunction is interrelated. Often it can just be a matter of being too busy. "Mostly it's the fatigue issue and one of the questions that I ask women who complain Do you work? Do you take care of the kids? Who washes the dishes?

Dr. Daniel asks those questions because if fatigue is the problem, she offers a fun, yet sensible solution. Figure out how many times your husband would like you to initiate sex, and then grab that many darts. "Put the calendar on the wall and throw the darts at the wall and on your to do list that morning you put go to the grocery store, pick the kids up, go to piano, initiate sex with my husband so that it becomes one of the things that you do because a lot of men need that in order to feel loved."

Dr. Daniel also says that you can also spoil yourself a little. "I say do whatever it takes to put you in the mood. Put the candles on, take a warm bubble bath, and go buy something sexy."

For some women physical elements may need to be addressed so the key to reclaiming your sexual desire can start with talking to your doctor.